Those Who Are Grieving Are Not Broken

We all experience grief in our own unique ways. To others, it might seem like we are somehow broken. However, this is far from the truth. The reality is that we are simply unprepared for loss, particularly the loss of a loved one. It is believed that recovering from a major loss and returning to your previous level of functioning may take 5 to 8 years. What?! Can anyone truly afford to lose 8 years of their life? This approach to grieving only results in unnecessary suffering. All emotions originate from love and fear. Negative emotions arise from fear, and grief is one of them. So, you might wonder, how can I change my emotional state? First, you must understand that you are not broken.

I know we have all heard of the 5 stages of grief:

• Denial - This isn't happening to me!

• Anger - Why is this happening to me?

• Bargaining - Attempting to negotiate with God.

• Depression - Experiencing hopelessness.

• Acceptance - Understanding that you must accept the loss rather than just endure it silently.

Every one of these processes takes time to arrive at the final phase of acceptance. But why should it take 5 to 8 years to get there? I'm not implying that you should hurry to get over your grief; rather, it's possible to move forward at a quicker pace. Time is the only resource that cannot be renewed. As Christians, we prioritize using our time wisely because God desires us to do so.

So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom. ~ Psalm 90:12.

We often hear the phrase, "Life is short." Understanding this reality, it's important to use our time wisely and for lasting good. Consider asking yourself, how can I gain wisdom before my life ends? What actions should I take to fulfill God's purpose?

My main purpose of this post is to help you realize that grief doesn't have to take over your life. Above all, you are not broken. You're more like a slightly wobbly table— but still standing, just needing a bit of adjustment.

Prayer:

Heavenly Father, we seek Your presence as we navigate our sorrow. Remind us that although our hearts may feel shattered in this time of grief, we are not truly broken. Guide us to make the most of the time we have remaining. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen.